The First Four Minutes

　　When do people decide whether or not they want to become friends？ During their first fourminutes together， according to a book by Dr. Leonard Zunin. In his book， “Contact： The first four minutes”， he offers this advice to anyone interested in starting new friendships：“ ___（1）___ A lot of people's whole lives would change if they did just that.”

　　You may have noticed that the average person（一般人） does not give his undivided attention to someone he has just met. ___（2）___ If anyone has ever done this to you， you probably did not like him very much.

　　When we are introduced（被引见） to new people， the author suggests， we should try to appear friendly and self-confident. In general， he says， “People like people who like themselves.''

　　On the other hand， we should not make the other person think we are too sure of ourselves. Itis important to appear interested and sympathetic（同情）， realizing（意识到） that the other person has his own needs， fears（恐惧）， and hopes.

　　Hearing such advice， one might say， “But Fm not a friendly， self-confident person. That'snot my nature. It would be dishonest for me to act that way.”

　　___（3）___ We can become accustomed to（适应） any changes we choose to make in our personality. “It is like getting used to a new car. It may be unfamiliar at first， but it goes much better than the old one.”

　　But isn't it dishonest to give the appearance of friendly self-confidence（自信心） when we don't actually feel that way？ Perhaps， but according to Dr. Zunin， “total honesty” is not always good for social relationships 2， especially during the first few minutes of contact. There is a time for everything， and a certain amount of play-acting may be best for the first few minutes of contact

　　with a stranger. That is not the time to complain about one's health or to mention faults one finds in other people. It is not the time to tell the whole truth about one's opinions and impressions.___.（4）____ For a husband and wife or a parent and child， problems often arise during their first four minutes together after they have been apart. Dr. Zunin suggests that these first few minutes together be treated with care. If there are unpleasant matters to be discussed， they should be dealt with（处理）later.

　　The author says that interpersonal relations should be taught as a required course5 in every chool， along with reading， writing， and mathematics ___（5）___ That is at least as important as how much we know.

　　练习：

　　A In reply， Dr. Zunin would claim that a little practice can help us feel comfortable aboutchanging our social habits.

　　B Much of what has been said about strangers also applies to4 relationships with familymembers and friends.

　　C In his opinion， success in life depends mainly on how we get along with other people.

　　D Every time you meet someone in a social situation， give him your undivided attention forfour minutes.

　　E He keeps looking over the other person's shoulder， as if hoping to find someone moreinteresting in another part of the room.

　　F He is eager to make friends with everyone.

　　答案

　　1D 2E 3A 4B 5C

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